Anyone who has or has come in contact with a two year old has likely seen a tantrum. My sweet princess of a girl is no exception. She can sass me in a way I was unprepared for as a mother. 🙂
On a daily basis she spits, screams, stomps and cries. On the other hand she can also be so so sweet with her smiles and her hugs and her strings of incomprehensible words. She is a joy.
But a week or so ago she discovered a harmonica in our toy room. And she started making some music.
Looks innocent enough right?? But the truth behind this picture is that she was mad at me about something and so she started playing what I called the “angry harmonica”
Every time I would ask her a question she would grimace at me and play the harmonica. Did you even know it could be played angry?!
I can see the growl in her expression here….
And so throughout the evening she played away….and when I talked to her she blew that angry harmonica at me.
Isn’t she precious?
But in all seriousness, how much different am I really?
While I don’t play an “angry harmonica” at people literally, I certainly find others ways to share my frustrations with others.
Anger isn’t something that I have been comfortable talking about. Admitting that anger is a problem for me is even more tough. I would like you all to see me happy and put together.
But I’m not. Most of the time.
I have a hot temper, I get frustrated easily and those closest to me get to “experience” my reactions. Dominic once said “you would never act that way in front of people outside our family”….and he is right. I take advantage of the fact that my family is “stuck” with me and often let that belief justify my harsh behavior.
Today I read this post by Lisa Jo Baker and it hit home. Especially when she shared what her friend told her – “Lisa-Jo if you struggle with temper at all you better learn how to control it before you have kids. Because you can’t parent with an out of control temper.”
Wow isn’t that the truth??
I am not an effective parent when my emotions are out of control. When I am blowing my “angry harmonica” at people I leave a trail of hurt. I don’t want that to be what my children, my husband remember most about me.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 says “Do not be quick to anger,for anger sits comfortably in the lap of fools.”
Ephesians 4:26 “When you are angry, don’t let it carry you into sin.”
Lisa Jo had several ideas for taming a temper…and I encourage you to hop over and read her full post…it is that good!
For me, this is a constant challenge and something that I need to be in daily prayer about. So that when I feel that frustration come, I can find ways, through prayer and maybe a little “time out”, calm my spirit so that my children remember me for my hugs and unconditional love and not my temper.
Today I am playing the harmonica of peace. Want to join me? Is this an area that you struggle with?? Leave me a comment and I will pray for you too! Us mama’s have to stick together!